I have always marveled at what a great father my dad was, especially considering that he had such a difficult childhood. His parents were neglectful and drank way too much. At an early age, he chose to leave his home and went to live with his grandmother. Because of his early childhood, my father always asked us to stay away from alcohol; and I did. I obeyed my father not because I was holy or a “good girl” but because it would hurt him if I drank.

When I was in seventh grade, visiting my friend, she talked me into tasting whiskey. I only took one taste, and it was terrible! But then I was wracked with regret and went home and told my dad what I had done. His reaction was not the anger I had imagined but rather a deep sadness. I will never forget the look on his face. He did not need to punish me or tell me once again why he did not want me to drink. I loved him, and I had hurt him. That was all the punishment I needed. Instead, I needed his forgiveness. As he hugged me and told me that he forgave me, I made a vow that I would not hurt him again. I was never again going to risk damaging our relationship!

Today’s scripture reminds me of this story from my childhood. John’s words reflect the lesson I learned from my father. Once we truly understand how much love God has for us, we will not sin. We obey God not because we might get into trouble but because we do not want to do anything to damage the loving relationship between ourselves and the God who loves us so completely!